It's not always pretty, but it gets the job done.

It's not always pretty, but it gets the job done.

Need to tame a fly hair? Mom spit. Crumbs stuck to face from recent snack? Mom spit. Fix a squeaky door hinge or glue a toy piece back on with it. It's powerful stuff, that mom spit. It can even show how much you care.







Thursday, December 18, 2014

Exposing Weirdness

"Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found." --Pema Chodron

"Your weirdness will make you stronger.  Your vulnerability will connect you to the rest of the suffering world.  Your creativity will set you free.  There is nothing wrong with you." --Andrea Balt

Two of my favorite quotes.  Reminding me that it's okay to be me.  It's okay to be raw and vulnerable, and all the other "faults" I saw/see in myself.  My "faults" are what make me unique and make me strong.  I am strong because of my weaknesses.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Happy

What does it mean to be happy?  My mother asked me the other day "Krista, are you happy?"  I'm sure the look on my face was quizzical as I replied "yes, of course."  I felt like it was a strange question.  No...not strange.  I was a complicated question.  But how worrisome would it have been had I replied, "It's complicated, mom."?

Why would such a simple question have such a complicated response, though?  Are you happy?  Yes or no.  It should be simple, right?

I am happy.  But I am also sad.  I am angry.  I am curious.  I am joyful.  I am aggravated and frustrated.  I am blessed.  I am enough.  I am...

My tattoo on my left wrist says it all for me, sometimes.  It says "I am..."  People often ask me what it means, and I usually just tell them it means I am who ever I choose to be.  It's a little too complicated to spend more time than that to explain.  Just like the answer to the question "Are you happy?"

I am.  I am happy, but I am more than that.  I am a lot of things.  I am complicated.

What does it mean, though, to be happy.  Because I can say I am happy, but I am not happy, I have happy moments.  I am not sad, but instead have sad moments.  And so on and so forth.

Ultimately I believe it comes down to balance.  I am happy when there is balance.  When the sad and mad and angry and frustrated weight slightly less than the happy and joyful, and blessed, and curious.

I am...balanced.

Are you happy?  No.  But I am balanced.

Friday, December 12, 2014

A Reminder

My dear wonderful husband knows me.  He is also horrible at keeping surprises.  So when this shirt came in the mail that he had ordered for a Christmas present, he opted to just give it to me right away.  I think he knew I needed the strength it would provide.  I wear it as a shield and as a constant reminder:



Hyperbole and a Half is one of my top favorite blogs/online comics/life stories.

And, apparently, I'm a lot like Sarah Anderson, or so the hubby says, in that a lot of the anxieties she draws about are very relateable to many of my own.  I love her humor.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Shall we Recap?

Life moves in waves.  In high school I remember excitedly sharing with my algebra teacher, my mother, my best friend, anyone who I thought would listen, about my theory on sine waves.  I believed they were the secret to understanding the entire universe and life.  Can you say math geek?  But here me out on this.  It's a repetitive up and down wave that is applied to light, sound, and is often a function of time.  It is our perception.  Our perception is in waves.  Our life is our perception.

Life moves in waves.  I'm on a wave that I need the surf board of this blog to ride.  Let me digress and recap the past few years' ups and downs.

We took my daughter to Disney World last February.  The memory of the joy, magic, and amazement in her face will sustain me for a lifetime.

J riding the Dumbo Ride at Disney World.
J and the Husband at the castle in Magic Kingdom.

After two ectopics, I got pregnant and then had a miscarriage.

The husband and I were blessed to go on a trip to St. Kitts.

Proof that I was there!  HA!

After our ATV tour up one of the mountains on the island.

I had emergency surgery on an ectopic, lost that tube and ovary, and ultimately made the decision to clamp off the other side so to end the cycle of ectopics.  I lost my natural fertility.

I got a job 3 minutes from my house and 5 minutes from my daughter's school.

I have to work during the holiday season to support my clients at the new job.
Fortune received shortly after starting the new job.

We added a new dog, a hamster, and a fish to the family.  The solid black hamster is named Snowflake and the white and blue male betta is named Goldie.  My daughter has a since of irony and humor.
This little s%!& likes to go outside the moment we try to go to bed to go bark at the squirrels.

He's cute, right?  He's so cute.

She had to earn $50 from doing chores to get her "Goldfish"


We had to put down Angus, our old man, our first dog as a couple together.  Our 4 year old showed she understood death more than we thought.
Sweet boy will be very missed.

We are financially stable, want for nothing, and are surrounded by people who love us, accept us, and support us.

My mother was recently diagnosed with Breast Cancer at the age of 50.  She had surgery just yesterday to remove the tumor and her centennial lymph nodes.  Staging will come in her appointment next Wednesday.  She's staying at our house while she recovers.  My husband is currently in Houston on business and my step-dad is leaving in the morning to take a load (my parents are truck drivers) to Canada in order to make sure they are meeting minimum requirements for work for their company.

And my daughter is having emotional breakdowns at school and home.

So, waves.  Emotions come in waves, too.  The saying goes that you can choose which wave you ride.  Sometimes those waves are so strong you have no choice but to be swept up in it until the storm passes.

I'm here, though.  This blog is my surf board, my life raft.  Literally and figuratively.  I recently read through old posts and was reminded of the healing nature of it.  And maybe I didn't realize it at the time, but re-reading it brought back those emotions but time has given me the perspective to see that the wave was deep at one point but it came up high again eventually.  I'm holding on and waiting for the next swell in this ocean we call life.  My eyes are watching the light and my ears are open.  Let the waves wash over me.


Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Quote of the Day

"Time is an illusion.  Lunchtime doubly so."
-Douglas Adams, Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Quote of the Day

"Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you."
-George R. R. Martin, Game of Thrones